Young man to his boss: “Mr Smith, my mother told me to ask you for a raise.”
Mr Smith: “Okay, I’ll ask my mother if I may give it to you.”
As a professional photographer, Julie takes a lot of pride in her pictures. Wherever she goes, she brings her pictures with her, to show off her work.
โWowโ, said her host Samantha,โthese are really nice pictures, you must have a great camera.โ
Fuming mad at the implication that her whole talent came from her camera, Julie waited until the end of the meal. She then thanked her host, โThank you, the meal was delicious.โ And as if an afterthought added, โyou must have great pots.โ
…if someone wants something that you cannot give – time, energy, brain power, emotional or physical help in your home or office, then just say ‘No’.
This reminds me of the cartoon my daughters love to watch on TV – Dibo the Gift Dragon. There’s a character called Annie and she’s a kind and helpful girl who loves to bake. There’s also a pink rabbit called Bunny who is vain and selfish. In one episod, Bunny said to an obviously exhausted Annie, “You know Annie, I just can’t stand it anymore. Everyone is stepping all over you. What you need is a makeover. You must learn how to say ‘no’ like me” So, Bunny became Annie’s teacher and she was coaching Annie to say “No, No, No until Annie sounds just like her…mean and selfish.
So, wait until you feel ready to give freely and then you will be much more helpful without damaging yourself.
Remember, you don’t need to juggle every ball or take on every project. Relax, your need to enjoy life and focus on all the good. You’ll be far more productive with far less anguish!
“More men are killed by overwork than the importance of this world justifies.” – Rudyard Kipling